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eastereggI hope the Easter Bunny was good to you! Caden Bryce, Regan, Erin and I were all very spoiled.

Although because of Caden Bryce’s peanut allergy, the Easter Bunny goes very light on the chocolate for him, and a bit heavy on the Lego and books. 😉

Regan, Erin and I also received books (and some alcohol – naughty Easter Bunny!), but we definitely got our fair share of chocolate too!

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Caden Bryce and I have spent the last couple of days home sick. He is just about back to his old self, and should be off to school this afternoon. I, on the other hand, am looking forward to a long nap.

I rarely stitch or knit or anything when I’m sick. Instead I read, watch a bit of TV, and sleep as much as I can. Mostly I sleep. 😉

The newest addition to the family as finally arrived. Caden Bryce Williams was born on January 24, 2011 at 10:05 pm after 24 hours of labour. Mommy and baby are doing very well.

Life has obviously changed a lot since he has arrived. Sleeping more then an hour at a time is a thing of the past, for example. Also gone are luxuries like a quick trip to the store, or a long bath. Soon enough he will grow up though, and I will look back on these days fondly… maybe.

Erin and I have been talking about marriage lately. Not in a ‘are we going to get married’ way because we both know that it’s never going to happen. More a sociological discussion about the legal, social, emotional, economical, spiritual, and religious reasons people marry. We talked about arranged marriages, family obligations, the legal establishment of a nuclear family unit, the legal protection of children and public declaration of commitment.

For anyone who doesn’t know, I’m a widow. I lost my wife Shaine in December 2007 – we had been together since 1993 and married in 2006.

It was a dream come true, a dream I hadn’t even realised I had until gay marriage was legalised and I was allowed to marry. I had never been the child/teen to plan anything because I knew… basically that it was pointless, I guess. But getting that big day, getting to wear my white dress was incredible and I can understand why so many people obsess about it their whole lives, why marriage is the be all and end all, their goal in life. That’s how my mother was brought up to believe that her purpose in life was to get married, have children, be a mother.

My wedding day was the most amazing day of my life (bar the birth of my daughter) and I can honestly say that marriage made our relationship stronger. It brought us even closer, it just cemented everything we had and I think the legality just gave it another layer, somehow. A stronger foundation, maybe. I can’t put my finger on it, but possibly see all of the reasons above for why people marry.

So yes, being married was amazing and I can see why some people yearn for it.

But what I cannot understand is why people abuse the sanctity – people who marry on a whim, then divorce at the first fight. It’s almost as though they don’t take the notion seriously. Maybe it’s because I had to fight so long to be able to have that right that it makes no sense to me. I’m not saying that what other people do is wrong, just that it makes no sense to me.
I’ve always believed that marriage is sacred, special.
I firmly believed in the vows we made: to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.

Sadly, it was death that parted us.

I am in another relationship, it’s relatively serious but I know I will never marry again. Marriage, to me, is something you do once, to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. And that is the person I married. The person I wanted to take my last breath next to.

That’s not to say I don’t love Erin, because I do. She knows this, moreso that I do perhaps, and she understands why I will never marry again. It’s just… a different kind of love and I would have no complaints in spending the rest of my life with her. But it won’t be as a married couple.

Life has been a series of if not adventures, then at least interesting events, for the last little while.

I have definitely found the house that I want to call home. I’ve been busy decorating and purchasing/arranging furniture. Everything is finished except for one room on the lower ground floor that I have no idea what to do with.

I have also found out the reason for my constant feeling of nausea and exhaustion over the past few weeks. It appears it was not actually a virus.

It was morning sickness.

I’m pregnant.

It has only been in the last few weeks that I have begun to feel more like myself, just in time for the baby to begin learning to play drums in my abdomen (making me feel slightly ill and very uncomfortable).

As I start my fifth month of pregnancy, I am recovering. The baby is doing very well, even if I’m not at my best. I have also learned that it is a boy. I suspected so all along, but no one believed me, of course.

He’s due on January 19th, and Miss Q and I are eagerly awaiting his arrival.

As a note, if you happen to know me in real life but didn’t know I was pregnant, obviously you need to give me a call!

Saturday Six
1. What is the most recent thing you purchased with real cash? My weekly shopping
2. As a general rule, do you keep cash on you at all times? Always, yes
3. You have $50 in cash in your pocket and you are approached by someone asking for $20 because they’ve run out of gas. They seem believable and genuinely in need. Would you give them the $20? I would, yes.
4. Take the quiz: What Dollar Bill Are You?


You Are a Twenty Dollar Bill


You are a pretty ordinary gal or guy. There’s a lot of people like you in the world, and you probably tend to run in a pretty tight pack.
You may not be able to buy everything you want in the world, but you do okay. You’re able to be comfortable.

Compared to most people, you’re not really materialistic. You see how money is useful, but you don’t obsess over it.
As long as you have enough money to pay for what you need, you’re happy. You don’t feel rich or poor.

5. How often do you have this denomination in your pocket? That I can think of, I always have at least one. There’s 3 in my purse right now
6. Which single line in the quiz answer above best describes you? As long as you have enough money to pay for what you need, you’re happy

Miss Jade


jade rachel. 37. october 29 1978. scorpio. snake. welsh. lives in london. black hair. green eyes. tattooed. pierced. mother. daughter. sister. aunt. fiance. widow. lesbian. wiccan. hippy. geek. goth. ravenclaw

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